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Desire
Responsive Desire
Sexual desire that shows up in response to context and arousal, not before it.
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Researcher Emily Nagoski popularized the distinction between spontaneous desire (wanting before doing) and responsive desire (wanting once something pleasant has begun). Both are normal; one is more common in long-term relationships.
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